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The Child

The Child

Sometimes, when the crisis is in the form of children's tyranny, demands the child is accompanied by affective outbursts (tantrums). If adults do not perform all that he wants a child, the child throws himself on the floor, Sucitu feet, beats his hands, crying. Affective flash is best extinguished when adults calm enough for them respond and, if possible – generally ignored. Otherwise, the special attention of adults acting as positive reinforcement: the child quickly notices that persuasion and other pleasant moments in communicating with relatives follow it with tears or anger, and starts to act up more often in order to achieve this. In addition, the young child easily distracted. If he is really upset, adult enough to show him a favorite or a new toy, offer to do with something interesting – and the child, whose one desire is easily replaced by another, instantly switches and enjoys new business.

Set clear rules and not change them nor in any case. The child at this age it is difficult to understand why my mother is now allowed to eat candy or indulge in on the couch, and at other times – no. In addition, the rules of various family members (moms, dads, grandparents) should be consistent. It is impossible to Pope allowed that prohibits female, and vice versa. So try to agree among themselves this time. Do not let your child do what you can not really (just be sure to show that you love him and understand).

For example: "Before dinner, we do not eat candy! I understand, I want to eat candy after dinner please, before lunch there – such rules. " Very useful for a child to voice his feelings and emotions. "I understand that you are very upset, but … "or" I see that you are very, very angry at my father (Teddy, not tying shoes, etc.).